MAKE YOURSELF VULNERABLE

We don’t like it to be vulnerable. It sets us up for fear, shame and pain. Often, we’re scared of going to places that are outside our comfort zone. If you are shy and you get an invitation to a party where you don’t know anyone, except the one whose party it is, it is natural to feel that you don’t want to go. Many “what ifs” might run through your mind, such as: “What if nobody talks to me?” or “What if they don’t like me?”  “What if they don’t think I’m pretty, smart, rich or funny?” or “What if nobody there wants to dance with me?”

The truth is that all the things that we are so often afraid of never happen. Just be yourself, make yourself vulnerable and get out of your comfort zone. It is during times of vulnerability that we often experience growth and make the strongest connections with others. What if you went to the party and make new friends or even meet a new best friend? If you hide in your room and don’t go, you will never know what exciting new experiences or opportunities are waiting for you. Believe in yourself. Have some fun! New opportunities may wait around the corner. Go and find them!

Dr Ora Marx